How Did I Become An Army Wife?

I met my husband when we were in college. He was going to be a priest and I was going to be a nurse. Friendship became love and sooner rather than later we ended up pregnant with our first son. He was in his third year with the ROTC and his fourth in the Physics department when he took the decision to leave the ROTC and get his bachelor degree before he had planned it so he could support his new family. My family in the other hand didn’t believe in us and didn’t like him at all. We married a week before my due date and he left a day before our son turned two months old for his BT. We didn’t live together during all this time because my parents didn’t want us to and I thought they actually had the power to keep me away from him. They helped a lot though, but we paid them back by been apart from each other more than we should of have.

Once he came from AIT (they didn’t let me go see him during his graduation) we begun our life as a family of three. He was a reservist and tried to find a job as a physicist with no luck so two years after that he joined the AGR program. We were just in time to properly welcome our second and last child, our daughter. We then decided two children were more than enough and started planning for their future.

So, I guess I didn’t become an Army Wife at any particular point but rather became a Wife/Army Wife all at the same time. I don’t know other way to professionally support my husband than to cheer him up in his military career. I didn’t want him to join the Reserves when I got pregnant but he had always loved the Army so it was all part of the package (pun intended). There are days where I hate this life, especially because of the long absences and the fact that we are just mistresses and the Army is the wife but that also has its own advantages! I don’t like to be scared of pending deployments or certain missions but I like the thrill of the adventure of not knowing where we go next, the challenges with each duty station or the romance behind each phone call and letter/e-mail. There are friends who do not like my involvement in the Army or the federal government (PR is a territory divided into those who fight for its independence of the U.S. and those who would like to see it as the 51st state) but I don’t get those friend’s points of view so we are even I believe. To some people in the island he’s a Hero and to others he just sells his Land every day but we love and believe in the same things and that’s what matters and what at the end makes us stronger as a couple and as a family.

More than an Army wife…yes of course I’m more than that! But this kind of life defines who I am, it really does. I’m a nurse, medical interpreter/translator, and soon health educator because those are careers I can carry with me everywhere…and I care about where I can go because of the Army. We have two children because I feel that’s a perfect number to keep safe in a busy airport in a foreign country since I have a hand for each…and that also worries me because of the Army. I have two dogs even though I love animals because that’s usually the amount of animals allowed on a post per household. I have four cockatiels and all but one (my favorite) have plan Bs for when we PCS next. My internet connection fits in my pocket because when you PCS that’s where you sometimes need it. I don’t buy expensive furniture if I know it’s too fragile to move it across the ocean. Although we speak Spanish as our 1st language we taught our children English as their 1st because that makes more sense with a military life. I don’t put up stuff on the walls because I know one of us will get stuck removing and covering the holes when we PCS. I don’t even look at pretty curtains because they have to be practical and cheap so it doesn’t hurt when we move to a house with different size windows. I live in a tropical island and keep five boxes with Winter clothing for all the family in case we need to move to Alaska (I’d love that).

Thing is, I love my life. It might not fit some people’s standards but heck, not many get to marry their prince in shining armor and live happily ever after….going from adventure to adventure and from castles, to countries, to oceans, to islands, …..

Tattoos

I read in another blog about tattoos and decided to share the story of our tattoos here. Hubby and I like everything gothic and with a meaning and although tattoos had always amazed me I never got one because my parents would not let me. I was a very obedient child as you see :-p By our 5th anniversary, hubby and I realized our bodies only belong to each other so...after driving around what's known as El Condado in Puerto Rico (tourist area) we decided to get our tattoos done in a small tattoo parlor. It ended up been the tattoo parlor of a very famous guy here in the island and his work is always admired by those who know about body art.


D and I have the same tattoo but his is bigger and has my name on it, while mine is smaller and has his name on it. It has the Sun, the Earth, and a star, looked from the outer space from the Capricornus constellation which is of the month we met (September). D’s skin is dark and the colors of his tattoo are very bright and have not faded in 7 years. I can also say the same about mine but my skin is fair so it’s not that uncommon anyways. We have tried to track down the tattoo artist so we can have another one done with no luck. With our next tattoo we want to honor our children and won’t necessary get the same one. I have thought of having my son draw a dragonfly and my daughter a butterfly and then have their drawings tattooed on my ankle.

What you think about tattoos? Do you have any?

Blog Safety

I’ve been reading about blog safety and the things people do post and don’t. I’ve always followed OPSEC but don’t think I’ve done a good job at keeping our civilian location private. We are stationed overseas and the first language in the island is Spanish so that might be the reason I feel ok about posting this info on here. I have removed my children’s pictures from this site which sucks because I like sharing their pictures (what mother doesn’t) but after reading what other bloggers think I’ll take preventive measures. D doesn’t like me to post anything on internet but I can’t help it, this is who I am and he respects my wishes as long as I don’t put our family in danger.

I feel it’s not fair since most of you share these things with me…What are your opinions on this?

Tofu and Lent Season

I don’t like to cook especially because it can get boring sometimes. This is Lent season and my husband was going to be a priest before we met, so I always have to become more than creative during these 40 days out of respect for his beliefs. I’m catholic but he practices our faith more than I do. Last year I fixed seafood almost every day and although it is good for a man to eat sea food <> I hate how my kitchen smells during and after the food is done. I decided to try Asian food this week and of course I had to try and make tofu. I’ve heard tofu can be really hard to make and can turn into a mushy thing that looks more like baby food, but after some research on internet and the tips of a facebook friend (who’s vegan) I realized tofu is super easy to make, is healthy, and yummy! Which is important for my children :0)

I bought the extra firm tofu at the commissary which was around $1.50 . There's another brand more expensive like $1.99 but I tried the cheap one in case it ended up in the trash.

I drained the tofu block for 15-20 minutes using paper towels and a heavy dish on top of it, cut it in half, and then each half in thirds, and those thirds in thirds, and those thirds in triangles. Then "fried" it without any oil, so the water that was left inside could evaporate. My friend adviced me to use bread crumbs so it wouldn't stick to the pan but since I didn't have any at home and couldn't go to the commy (car is broken) I went ahead and used rice wheat. It helped a lot because it didn't stick at all and gave it a crunchy texture on the outside.

In about 10-15 minutes they looked like this!

After I was done with the tofu, added canola spray to the pan and stir fried Asian vegerables (including bamboo shoots) in soy sauce, pepper & garlic, and recaito (Puerto Rican mix of herbs in virgin oil). Then I added the tofu and pour a bit more of soy sauce so it could absorb the sauce flavor too.

This is the end result! I served with rice noodles and the kids and D loved it, they even went for seconds and asked me to make the same dish for Good Friday. I can't wait to try more tofu recipes, the next one I think will be lemon & rosemary baked tofu :0) My daughter already asked me to make egg rolls using tofu! Their Asian genes are kicking in!!!

The Ultimate Price

Haven't been around much because I'm working on my last class assignments for this session. I think I will get A on Epidemiology and am still working on Cross-Cultural class but it's looking good.

Yesterday I learned on twitter that a Marine wife had lost her husband who was deployed in Afghanistan. This is any Military wife's nightmare and I'm so sorry that she has to go through this. She's only 23 years old and has a baby girl that will never meet her dad in person. Life seems so unfair sometimes. They are in my prayers and I wish life pays her back for taking her soulmate too soon, and for all the memories that will never be. There's a song that I love and always makes me think on my husband and all the things our Armed forces go through every day...including those of us who are left behind. Sometimes I hate the Army for having priority over us, but I'm proud to have married a man that is willing to die for what he believes in. I'm sure A Little Pink In A World Of Camo is proud that her husband dared to live his dream. He dared to live with a purpose. God bless this Hero and his family. We do not die, we just change our address.

~Hand Of Sorrow~

Within Temptation

The child without a name grew up to be the hand

To watch you, to shield you, or kill on demand

The choice he'd made he could not comprehend

His blood a grim secret they had to commend

He's torn between his honor and the true love of his life

He prayed for both but was denied

So many dreams were broken and so much was sacrificed

Was it worth the ones we loved and had to leave behind

So many years have passed, who are the noble and the wise?

Will all our sins be justified?

The curse of his powers tormented his life

Obeying the crown was a sinister crime

His soul was tortured by love and by pain

He surely would flee, but the oath made him stay

He's torn between his honor and the true love of his life

He prayed for both but was denied

So many dreams were broken and so much was sacrificed

Was it worth the ones we loved and had to leave behind

So many years have passed, who are the noble and the wise?

Will all our sins be justified?

Please forgive me for the sorrow

For leaving you in fear

For the dreams we had to silence

That's all they'll ever be

Still I'll be the hand that serves you

Though you'll not see that it is me

So many dreams were broken and so much was sacrificed

Was it worth the ones we loved and had to leave behind

So many years have past, who are the noble and the wise?

Will all our sins be justified?

Passion Party & Racism All in the Same Weekend!

Hubby’s doing drill this weekend so I had to play single mom for the last two days. Yesterday we went to Yauco (my parent’s town) and my father babysat for me while mom and I went to my cousin’s for a Passion Party!! This is the second time I go to one of these parties. The first time was at a friend’s and all my ESL students went too so we had a blast. I talked to my cousin and the consultant and that’s how this last party happened. I ordered few things and I must say it is SO fun for couples to share these things together. If you have not gone to this kind of party before you should. It is not like you learn secret things or anything, but you have fun exploring the possibilities and in my case learning that although being spontaneous is good, planning ahead can also be FUN!


Today I’ve been in my house chilling but since my kiddos were bored I decided to go to the park and take the dogs with us. The park is around the block so it’s not a huge walk after all. We had fun until…a Caucasian family arrived in the park and decided to make their children go to the opposite playground my children were playing on. This happened four or five times ‘til I decided they were been obvious and didn’t care. Their children wanted to play with mine but they didn’t let them and mind you, everybody talks about how well behaved my kids are so it’s not like they are brats. My daughter was even elected student of the week this past week and my son is in his school's honor roll. They are not delincuents of anything :)


Long ago this kind of situation would have sent me in a frenzy and I would have said a couple of things to them but as I have grown and matured I have changed some of my ways. I wasn't aware of racism until the Army sent us to this Army unfriendly town where everyone knew each other and Latin or Hispanic people were considered a cancer. We had to move out of there under hardship orders after the Army decided (after a bunch of incidents) that our lifes were in danger. This time I decided to ignore this family and explain my children that some people didn’t like to be associated with other races because they were afraid others could expose their limitations (i.e. language) to the public. I also told them that they should not get mad and much less sad because God is always watching and He knew if racism was really in their hearts, and what to do in such case. I said we can’t judge them because I would be doing the same thing they were doing and so on… The thing is, I feel so much better now!


I think about this in this way; if they feel superior they are not, so that’s enough punishment. If they are afraid of us for being multilingual, then that’s enough punishment. If they feel we are unfairly taking their jobs, they are wrong because we are American born citizens and they are right, we are taking their jobs because we have a better education and to top it all we speak three languages, so that’s enough punishment. If they believe their children are better, they are wrong because mine are (sarcasm), so that’s enough punishment. If they don’t mind showing off their racism, they will live a very hard life in a diverse country like U.S., so that’s enough punishment. If they teach their children to be racist, they are limiting their own children, so that’s enough punishment. If they really feel in their hearts they way some Caucasian minorities tell them to act, they are slaves of their own beliefs and will rotten in Hell so, that’s enough punishment.


There’s nothing I can do to change their minds or hearts but to keep annoying them by living my happy life and being the best I can be. The U.S. Military Forces are very diverse and they looked like a really young family so there, they signed up for this. Either time or experience will help them mature and maybe someday they’ll look back on this Sunday evening and will realize how wrong they were and how mean they must have been to mess with children and to corrupt their own children’s hearts. Karma is a b!tch and her daughter looked like she liked my son so they better be careful and keep their children away from the World because they might end up cradling brown babies! LMAO


And last but no least; my beautiful Caucasian friend, Sarah, needs prayers and all the help she can get. Her daughter, Faith, has been diagnosed with a terminal brain tumor and she's only 6 years old. You can read more about her at http://caringbridge.org/visit/faithpruden and http://www.helpfaith.com/

Also if you are a Military Wife I found this lady on facebook, Ashley Inglet from Ashley's SemperFi Creations ,that makes customized wreaths and other items for military families. You may want to take a look.

Hubby made the Direct Commission board!! But haters are already letting us know how they feel...

D made the Direct Commission board and we are really happy for him. I had a promise that I wouldn’t update my facebook status until he passed the board and last night I was able to finally update it. Many friends congratulated him and showed their happiness for us, many of these friends were Military families of course but among those who were happy for us, an ex-neighbor stuck up like a sore thumb. She said that not everything that shines is gold…her story is complex but to make it really short: Her hubby was in the Green to Gold program and after he graduated from nursing school, didn’t pass the NCLEX the two times he tried.


He’s really smart but the problem is that he has to be Mr. Mom, even when he’s studying for something like the NCLEX! He had to take the kids to school and daycare (although his wife didn’t work), pick them up, cook, study with them, clean the house, walk the dogs, and attend to an adult with issues. All this on top of having to study and do good in his job + his classes. Because of this he had to hold back his plans and remain a SSG until he can re-submit his packet as a soldier holding a bachelor and not as an RN. She once told me that once she became an Army Officer wife she wasn’t going to be able to talk to me anymore (she didn’t know dh had submitted his Direct Commission packet then nor she understood the confraternization rules apply to those holding the rank) and usually compared material stuff I have with hers.

Anyways, we knew how she rolls all along it’s just surprising how she can’t even pretend to be happy for us. It is better though, because I don’t like hypocrites but it is still shocking to see how much she can hate us for something that has nothing to do with her particular case.

But as Carla and her husband say: “Ping, ping…that’s the sound of your hate bouncing off our love” or something like that! LOL



In more important notes, please if you read this take a bit more of your time and visit www.caringbridge.org/visit/faithpruden  and http://www.helpfaith.com/  Faith is my friend’s daughter and she was diagnosed with glioma (terminal brain tumor) she’s only 6 years old and the doctors have given her only 6 months to live. Please read more about her and if you can, donate something to her family, even if it’s prayer. They need a miracle.

In Love....with myself :-p

Everyone’s in my dh’s Chain of Command is saying he made the Direct Commission board!!! They are also saying he did the SFC board which is ironic because now that we don’t want to remain enlisted they finally appreciate his work. He also earned a Supply Excellence Award so that might have forced them to pay attention to dh’s dedication. Anyways…I’m happy that he’s moving on in his career and accomplishing his goals. I’m also moving on with my goals and getting all As! I never thought I’d like this field more than I do medicine but I guess I have just found a happy medium as a Health Educator. Thanks Army for taking care of the bill by the way  I’m super excited and already enrolled in my third session with the TUI University. It’s been a nice experience so far. The professors are really nice and dedicated, there are always exceptions but I’ve been lucky in that aspect. The new classes I enrolled are BORING but so I thought about Epidemiology and ended up getting an A in that class, so I guess it all depends on my mindset.

The Pope drinks Yaucono coffee every morning :-)

The cockatoos returned this morning as usual, there are four of them and I am loving the spectacle every morning. Nothing like enjoying Nature with my "Proud of my Soldier" mug filled with hot Yaucono coffee (Cappuccino), after my children leave for school and my sweetheart leaves for work. It makes me feel I am one with God. After watching the ’toos fly around my house I begin my house chores and work on my Esposas Militares Hispanas group. Gathering recent information and translating it for all the Hispanic wives of our group. Then is off to do homework, study, and research different topics for my classes. All of this makes me feel alive! I love being a wife…heck! Not just a wife but an Army Wife and also being a mom to my two blessings from Heaven, even to my pets, but it’s really rewarding for me to have something that only belongs to me, a time where I can spoil myself and submerge in whatever I need to do to reach my goals. I feel loved by my family but most important, I feel loved by myself.

Please Faith's Page she's a 6 years old girl fighting terminal brain cancer (glioma). If you want to read more you can do so at her page or checking my past entries. If you'd like to donate to her family please visit their page Donate to Faith's family

Me and My Bird Obsession...

I haven’t been able to blog in a while. My little sis came from Florida and spent a little more than a week here in the island. I got to see her three or four times only because I live two hours away from our parents and her husband’s parents. I enjoyed her company and miss her a lot. She’s been trying to have a baby for a while but they now feel ready to start the adoption process once they settle into their new home (they just bought a beautiful house). I’m pretty excited for them, they deserve all the new changes in their lives.


About me…well, hubby was in a mission this week and the kids have been taking the TERRANOVA tests so we have gotten out of our hectic routines.

A couple of days ago we heard a loud screaming in the sky when we looked up we saw the most wonderful creature flying free…an umbrella cockatoo! There are four of them, although yesterday only got to see three. This morning as I was drinking my coffee sitting on the stairs by the door, a cockatoo flew over me and another one said: ‘HOLA!’ (hello) from a tree next to me. I never saw the one hidding in the tree, but they were “playing” with me. I hope nobody captures them, I live in a tropical island and I’m sure they’ll thrive if people give them the chance.

I didn't take this picture but it is a picture of one of the actual flocks living on Ft Buchanan.

The two white spots on the palm tree are actually a pair of cockatoos.

Five eggs found in Sunny and Pichu's nest. (cockatiel eggs)

There are also Quaker parrots and parrotlets flying free on the military post we live on. They come every morning, leave, and then come back in the evening. It’s a wonderful spectacle! My children say God wants to play with them and sends all these wonderful birds their way so they can laugh. It is wonderful to see life and this world through the eyes of a child. I never thought I'd like birds so much but Puerto Rico has taught me to love these pooping machines to the point of becoming an obsession. I use my telescope to take pictures of them but they are to fast for my untrained eyes.

In other notes…I just discovered my cockatiel, Sunny, laid a total of five eggs! I still don’t think they are fertilized but we are keeping our fingers crossed. I’d be happy with at least one baby cockatiel 

Please don’t forget to visit http://www.helpfaith.com/ to help this six year old girl fighting cancer. If you want to follow her story visit http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/faithprudent

A Little Girl Fighting Cancer

My friend's 6 year old daughter has been diagnosed with terminal brain cancer. Please say a prayer for her and her family. This links you to her site in which you can read more about her and follow her story. All donations made on Faith's name in this site will be received by the organization and not Faith's family so ...if you want to make a donation directly to them pls contact her Sarah's Facebook acct, so you can ask her where to send it. In moments like this, hospital bills, and everyday expenses can be hard to afford.


I believe in miracles and I know the power of a prayer is unmeasurable, please pray that part of God's plan for Faith is to respond to her treatment and continue her life with the people that love her most. Also pray that her family have the strength necessary to see her go through all this treatments and to support her every step of the way.

Please spread the word, re-post this on your page, she needs all the prayers, good vibes, and get well soon wishes she can get.

Birthdays and the Army don't go together...

I have neglected the blog but it’s not like I have a ton of followers or anything :-P So here I go…

My cockatiel laid an egg. It is the first time she lays an egg so we are happy although I’m pretty sure it is not fertilized. She doesn’t have toes (we rescued her that way) and can’t keep her grip when he tries to mount her so….let’s see what happens.

I submitted two whole modules and got 3 As in the first one but I’m still waiting for the second one. It was nice because I got A in epidemiology which is mostly statistics and I’m really bad at math and hubby wasn’t here this weekend to help me. I guess that proves I’m good at math when I have to.

This weekend my dh had drill (he’s an AGR) so although it was our daughter’s bday weekend he wasn’t here to celebrate. My car is broken so I had no car to go buy a cake and even if I had my id expired a week ago and I have to limit where I go on the post. On the good side, my lil sis comes tonight from Florida and my parents will come over tomorrow morning. They don’t know she’s coming so it will be a surprise! Hubby will be here then and we’ll have cake to celebrate Anita’s 10th birthday.

Dh is not home yet though, and it seems he might take forever to get here since one soldier from another unit stole or lost his riffle and now nobody can leave the base he’s on until it appears. He is happy that wasn’t his soldier because he’s the one in charge of the arms room in his unit. That was close!

Now I’m watching Teen Mom and wondering what those girls have in their brains?! I’ve known many teen moms that mature once the baby is born because either they don’t have a choice or they love their children so much. Anyways…the show keeps me entertained and it teaches my preteens how hard life is with a baby and all the problems a relationship brings at such age.

I think that’s all for now…oh yeah this picture is of a dragon that in my kitchen the day dh left for his drill. The kids and I had to kill it because otherwise it would have taken over the house. Why does everything happen when they are not around?

Also I'd like that whoever reads this prays for my friend's six year old daughter. They just found out she has an aggresive form of brain cancer. She needs all the prayers and good vibes we can send her way. I met her two years ago on the internet and she came all the way from Ohio to Puerto Rico to meet me in person, we had a lot of fun and a good friendship was born. Please keep her and her family in your prayers.

Introductory Blog

I started blogging here a couple of weeks ago but two days ago I was told by Army Wife Julie on twitter how to link this blog to twitter so I can get followers. The first step is to blog about myself so here I go:

I was born in Puerto Rico 33 years ago. My father's family came from Lombardia and my mother's family from Corsica. I speak Spanish and English and know a bit of Italian but am not fluent though. I went to nursing school but I hate hospitals and yes, that doesn't make any sense...soooo now I'm back in college so I can teach Health or work with the federal government (I hope) in research. I love my field is just that hospitals make me feel like a prisoner.

I've been married to the love of my life since 1997, he's a physicist and also a soldier (soon to be an officer, GOD willing). He's been in the Army for 12 years and counting. We have two children, boy and girl, ages 12 and 9 (soon to be 10), two dogs (toy poodle and chihuahua), and four rescued cockatiels. We are stationed overseas but soon will be PCSing to wherever the Army sends us, which is great because I like adventures!

I love reading, read twilight (the whole four books) in a week so I'm a fast reader but for some reason I've been stuck on chapter 4 of "The Lost Symbol" since last month. Probably the Mason thing didn't impress me much. In my free time I like to play with my birdies and spoil my doggies, TV is a luxury for me these days but when I do have time I like to watch TLC, SiFi, Lifetime, Animal Planet, and of course CNN. I spend a big part of my day on the computer doing homeworks and taking classes and when I'm not around is because I'm catching up on the house chores or above all, spending time with my beloved children.

I love politics but don't talk much about that topic with any of my friends. It is interesting because living in a US territory, politics take a whole new meaning because what happens here and what happens in the Mainland are two different things and yet they are interwinded.

Most of my live I thought I was a snobby person but thanks to facebook, twitter, and the fact that I can now take a peak at ex-classmates's lifes finally know that what I thought was snobbyness was just normal and plain pride....there're some real cases of snobbyness out there and I'm NOT one of them thank GOD! lol

I'm a Christian but don't go to Church, I have many excuses and know none of them is really good enough so I won't go there. I also have a tendency to make promises to God, small sacrificies. Like for example, I can't update my facebook status until my husband receives his Direct Commission, I can't dye my hair nor wear jewelry other than my wedding band and dogtags until September. It may seem stupid but God and I understand :-) it is after all, a thing between Him and I.

I also am a volunteer at the military post we live in, I teach ESL to adults and in exchange I earn lab. hours for my practice as a teacher-student. On facebook I'm one of the moderators of an US Military Wife  group for hispanic wives. I usually translate information or let them know about how things work in the military. I'm now personally concerned about Military Etiquette and Protocol. I think it's fun to learn where all the rules came from and what they mean, besides, you never know when you'll need them!

Well....I think that's all. This is me in a nutshell! There's more I'm sure but it's Monday and my brain is still in low motion :-P

Hating Officer's Wives

I have come across many blogs from Army Wives stating that they hate Officer's Wives. The last time I came across an officer wife here on internet she told me how her LV purses were real and not copies (weird 'cause we've never hang out so she's not aware of my aversion for purses in general) anyways...now that my husband has decided to become a Commissioned Officer (we are waiting for the board's final decision) I've been thinking on what I DON'T want to become. Don't misinterpret me, we do want this commission because aside all the honor and Army tradition that it represents it also represents a better quality of life for our children but we are not all about the money.


I'm very proud of my husband NOT because of a commission but because he's an NCO and will be (God willing) a Mustang (a commissioned officer who served as an NCO before commissioning). It might sound snobby I reckon, but by saying this I mean, that I'm proud of my husband because of all the things we've been through together. Everybody wants to do better and bigger at what they do but just because you set a certain set of goals for your future it doesn't mean other people's set of goals is wrong. I know someone who became a doctor and now updates his facebook status to state how important he is and so on....we know better.

We have God in our lifes, we don't only count our blessings but also make our blessings count. As hubby always says, he who's lower ranking today could be a superior tomorrow and vice-versa. I've never wore my husband's ranks and won't start now...I believe that the women who do this lack self esteem and confidence. I have accomplished part of what I wanted for myself and have set a new set of goals for my near future and I think that's what I am. I'm a daughter, an Army wife, a mother, a full time student, a friend...but among all I'm one of God's children and would never forget to treat others with dignity and respect because that's what my parents taught me.

Whenever an officer's wife asks me if I know who she is, I reply "why? You can't remember?" I carry the title of Army wife with pride because only the women that share this kind of life with me know what it means. But my accomplishments are only mine and so are my husbands. I know not all officer's wives are snobby and wear their husband's ranks, but the few that do don't do it because they are officer's wives, they do it because they are broken inside.

I know this sweet, beautiful lady who's a major's wife. You'd say she's snobby by the things she says and the way she talks....but if you care to look deeper you'll see a woman who's heart is aching for her husband's love. Since she doesn't have it anymore all that is left for her to do is to talk about how it used to be and how good the other parts of her life are. You see, the more a person brags, the more they try to convince themselves that what they say is true.

Winnie♥

Arrogance

Not long ago a new Army Wife asked me for some orientation on how to get her passport and stuff like that because she was about to join her husband in Germany. I helped her out all I could and she appreciated it...or so she said. Shortly after that she began writing on her facebook status how great and super cool is to be an Army Wife (she's still in the Army honeymoon period apparently) thing is, some other new wives started to worry because they couldn't feel that same way especially since most of them had to go through a deployment immediately after AIT.



Anyways I explained to them that this other Army wife was still in her honeymoon period and that it sometimes takes time to realize the Army can be a b!tch sometimes. Things continued so I had to let the honeymooner know that some other women were worrying and that it was nice that she felt that way BUT she had to be aware things won't always be perfect. She needed to be ready for anything.


Thing is...she updated her status letting everyone know that she didn't need help because her friend in Germany knew all she needed to know and because if she needed to know something she could just look it up somewhere. Anyways...it made mad but I let it go. Today she asked me what an LES is and why if she's stationed in Germany do they have to pay Puerto Rico's taxes. Karma is b!tch! LOL! Of course I helped her but that doesn't mean I now like arrogant people.


Humbleness opens so many doors, a simple thank you does wonders. You never know when you'll need help from someone so we should just appreciate the help we get, help others when they need it, and swallow our pride when someone knows more and better than you. After all...isn't that why some people go through different stuff before others? I'm not a smarty pants, never been one, and will never be...I just enjoy when life gives me the reason....after all who doesn't?!




"You're a song written by the hands of God"


"when all of your wishes are granted, many of your dreams will be destroyed.."


"In my world everyone is a pony and all eat rainbows and poop butterflies...ahhhhh" ~ Katie


"Ping, ping...that's the sound of your hate bouncing off our love" Scrubs


"It's hard to soar like an eagle when you're surrounded by a bunch of turkeys" So choose your friends wisely!


"Seize the day before the day seizes you"


"Answer a fool according to his folly, lest he be wise in his own conceit." Proverbs 26:5


"To let true love remain unspoken is the quickest route to a man's graveyard"


"Nothing makes us as lonely as our secrets"


"I am different from Washington; I have a higher, grander standard of principle. Washington could not lie. I can lie, but I won't." ~Mark Twain


"Those who lack sense burn with sadness if they mistreat destiny"


"If the blind lead the blind, both shall fall into the ditch"


"Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me"


"We should count our blessings but we should also make our blessings count"


'By learning to obey you'll learn how to command"


"Who offends write on sand; who is offended in marble"


"Give neither counsel nor salt till you're asked for it"


"In bocca al lupo"


"Dalle stelle alle stalle"


"Dio li fa, poi li accoppia"


"The moment you feel like giving up, just remember all the reasons you held on for this long."


"It's easier to go down a hill than up, but the view is from the top"


"Nobody can be kinder than the narcissist while you react to life in his own terms"


"Pride is the mask of one's own faults". Jewish Proverb


"There is a paradox in pride: it makes some men ridiculous, but prevents others from becoming so".
Charles Caleb Colton


"Why do you value yourself in pennies when you're worth a King's ransom"


Forsake not an old friend, for a new one does not compare with him.
* Apocrypha -- Ecclesiastics 9:10


Friendship is a single soul dwelling in two bodies.
* Aristotle


It is one of the blessings of old friends that you can afford to be stupid with them.
* Ralph Waldo Emerson


The most beautiful discovery true friends make is that they can grow separately without growing apart.


In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends


Where there is only a choice between cowardice and violence, I would advise violence.
~ Mohandas Gandhi


Seek not to follow in the footsteps of men of old; seek what they sought
~ Matsu Basho


Never interrupt your enemy when he is making a mistake.
~ Napoleon Bonaparte


Pain is weakness leaving the body


"I will not let anyone walk through my mind with their dirty feet." -- Mahatma Gandhi

Make your blessings count

So I'm still trying this thing out....

Last night my daughter was singing in her bedroom and I could hear her from mine. I let her know what a beautiful voice she has but she became all shy and argued with me that she didn't and that she wasn't going to sing ever again. I explained to her that God had given her a precious gift and that she was supposed to use it because otherwise it would be like receiving something pretty and special from someone and then forgetting you had it at all. I think she understood.....now she doesn't stop singing...bless!!

Army Wife Groups on Internet

So, I just created this blog page and couldn't resist the temptation of posting twice in a day :) I've been reading few blogs from my twitter contacts and some I googled out. This blogs really put you out there and I'm not sure if I like that but just to spread the word (until I figure out if I want to be on google searches) if you're reading this blog and are an Army wife you should visit this page Army Wives Magazine and if you have a facebook account and are a Latin Military wife you should check this group out  Esposas Militares Hispanas!! USA Armed Forces! I'm one of the moderators and its purpose is to provide Latin/Hispanic Military wives with all the information they may need in Spanish. We also have a fan page Esposas Militares Hispanas Fan Page

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Dream Interpretation (HELP!)

One of the topics that I enjoy the most is dream interpretation. As a woman of science I know this is just subjective topic but still, I enjoy it a lot. Last night I dreamt that I had found under my TV desk a bunch of spider nests. They were all wrapped around a spider web and there were around 3-4 of them. I took them out of there one by one and although the web broke all the spiders were alive. They were tiny, with white stripes on their legs. Since my husband is scared of them, I threw them outside and they fall around a baby gecko (I’m really scared of geckos) at first I thought it was going to eat them but the gecko stayed still. The last spider nest was on top of a dog skull. I woke up and look up the meaning if this dream on www.dreammoods.com and the website say something like this:

Spiders: “To see a spider in your dream, indicates that you are feeling like an outsider in some situation. Or that you may want to keep your distance and stay away from an alluring and tempting situation. The spider is also symbolic of feminine power. Alternatively, a spider may refer to a powerful force protecting you against your self-destructive behavior. If you kill a spider, it symbolizes misfortune and general bad luck”

Nest: “To see a nest full of eggs, symbolizes your financial future and financial security. The dream could thus be a pun on "nest egg".”

Skull: “To see a skull in your dream, symbolizes danger, evil and death. Alternatively, it represents the secrets of the mind. You may be keeping things hidden.”

Dog: “If the dog is dead or dying, then it indicates a loss of a good friend. Alternatively, it represents a deterioration of your instincts. Also consider common notions associated with the word dog, such as loyalty ("man's best friend") and to be "treated like a dog".

Lizard: “To see a lizard in your dream, signifies your primal instincts and reactions toward sex, food, etc. and your anxieties toward these feelings. The lizard can also be representative of a person who you view as cold-blooded, fearful, or thick-skinned. On a more positive note, the lizard also symbolizes emerging creativity, renewal, and revitalization. It may also suggest that you are well-grounded.”

I then went back to sleep and dreamt with a cat and its kittens. The only thing I found about cats is that they mean “an independent spirit, feminine sexuality, creativity, and power. It also represents misfortune and bad luck. The cat could indicate that someone is being deceitful or treacherous toward you. If the cat is aggressive, then it suggests that you are having problems with the feminine aspect of yourself. The dream may be a metaphor for "cattiness" or someone who is "catty" and malicious. If you see a cat with no tail, then it signifies a loss of independence and lack of autonomy”

So what do you think all this might mean? I hope it has nothing to do with hubby L nor my family.