I have neglected the blog but it’s not like I have a ton of followers or anything :-P So here I go…
I have come across many blogs from Army Wives stating that they hate Officer's Wives. The last time I came across an officer wife here on internet she told me how her LV purses were real and not copies (weird 'cause we've never hang out so she's not aware of my aversion for purses in general) anyways...now that my husband has decided to become a Commissioned Officer (we are waiting for the board's final decision) I've been thinking on what I DON'T want to become. Don't misinterpret me, we do want this commission because aside all the honor and Army tradition that it represents it also represents a better quality of life for our children but we are not all about the money.
I'm very proud of my husband NOT because of a commission but because he's an NCO and will be (God willing) a Mustang (a commissioned officer who served as an NCO before commissioning). It might sound snobby I reckon, but by saying this I mean, that I'm proud of my husband because of all the things we've been through together. Everybody wants to do better and bigger at what they do but just because you set a certain set of goals for your future it doesn't mean other people's set of goals is wrong. I know someone who became a doctor and now updates his facebook status to state how important he is and so on....we know better.
We have God in our lifes, we don't only count our blessings but also make our blessings count. As hubby always says, he who's lower ranking today could be a superior tomorrow and vice-versa. I've never wore my husband's ranks and won't start now...I believe that the women who do this lack self esteem and confidence. I have accomplished part of what I wanted for myself and have set a new set of goals for my near future and I think that's what I am. I'm a daughter, an Army wife, a mother, a full time student, a friend...but among all I'm one of God's children and would never forget to treat others with dignity and respect because that's what my parents taught me.
Whenever an officer's wife asks me if I know who she is, I reply "why? You can't remember?" I carry the title of Army wife with pride because only the women that share this kind of life with me know what it means. But my accomplishments are only mine and so are my husbands. I know not all officer's wives are snobby and wear their husband's ranks, but the few that do don't do it because they are officer's wives, they do it because they are broken inside.
I know this sweet, beautiful lady who's a major's wife. You'd say she's snobby by the things she says and the way she talks....but if you care to look deeper you'll see a woman who's heart is aching for her husband's love. Since she doesn't have it anymore all that is left for her to do is to talk about how it used to be and how good the other parts of her life are. You see, the more a person brags, the more they try to convince themselves that what they say is true.
Winnie♥
Not long ago a new Army Wife asked me for some orientation on how to get her passport and stuff like that because she was about to join her husband in Germany. I helped her out all I could and she appreciated it...or so she said. Shortly after that she began writing on her facebook status how great and super cool is to be an Army Wife (she's still in the Army honeymoon period apparently) thing is, some other new wives started to worry because they couldn't feel that same way especially since most of them had to go through a deployment immediately after AIT.
Anyways I explained to them that this other Army wife was still in her honeymoon period and that it sometimes takes time to realize the Army can be a b!tch sometimes. Things continued so I had to let the honeymooner know that some other women were worrying and that it was nice that she felt that way BUT she had to be aware things won't always be perfect. She needed to be ready for anything.
Thing is...she updated her status letting everyone know that she didn't need help because her friend in Germany knew all she needed to know and because if she needed to know something she could just look it up somewhere. Anyways...it made mad but I let it go. Today she asked me what an LES is and why if she's stationed in Germany do they have to pay Puerto Rico's taxes. Karma is b!tch! LOL! Of course I helped her but that doesn't mean I now like arrogant people.
Humbleness opens so many doors, a simple thank you does wonders. You never know when you'll need help from someone so we should just appreciate the help we get, help others when they need it, and swallow our pride when someone knows more and better than you. After all...isn't that why some people go through different stuff before others? I'm not a smarty pants, never been one, and will never be...I just enjoy when life gives me the reason....after all who doesn't?!
"You're a song written by the hands of God"
"when all of your wishes are granted, many of your dreams will be destroyed.."
"In my world everyone is a pony and all eat rainbows and poop butterflies...ahhhhh" ~ Katie
"Ping, ping...that's the sound of your hate bouncing off our love" Scrubs
"It's hard to soar like an eagle when you're surrounded by a bunch of turkeys" So choose your friends wisely!
"Seize the day before the day seizes you"
"Answer a fool according to his folly, lest he be wise in his own conceit." Proverbs 26:5
"To let true love remain unspoken is the quickest route to a man's graveyard"
"Nothing makes us as lonely as our secrets"
"I am different from Washington; I have a higher, grander standard of principle. Washington could not lie. I can lie, but I won't." ~Mark Twain
"Those who lack sense burn with sadness if they mistreat destiny"
"If the blind lead the blind, both shall fall into the ditch"
"Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me"
"We should count our blessings but we should also make our blessings count"
'By learning to obey you'll learn how to command"
"Who offends write on sand; who is offended in marble"
"Give neither counsel nor salt till you're asked for it"
"In bocca al lupo"
"Dalle stelle alle stalle"
"Dio li fa, poi li accoppia"
"The moment you feel like giving up, just remember all the reasons you held on for this long."
"It's easier to go down a hill than up, but the view is from the top"
"Nobody can be kinder than the narcissist while you react to life in his own terms"
"Pride is the mask of one's own faults". Jewish Proverb
"There is a paradox in pride: it makes some men ridiculous, but prevents others from becoming so".
Charles Caleb Colton
"Why do you value yourself in pennies when you're worth a King's ransom"
Forsake not an old friend, for a new one does not compare with him.
* Apocrypha -- Ecclesiastics 9:10
Friendship is a single soul dwelling in two bodies.
* Aristotle
It is one of the blessings of old friends that you can afford to be stupid with them.
* Ralph Waldo Emerson
The most beautiful discovery true friends make is that they can grow separately without growing apart.
In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends
Where there is only a choice between cowardice and violence, I would advise violence.
~ Mohandas Gandhi
Seek not to follow in the footsteps of men of old; seek what they sought
~ Matsu Basho
Never interrupt your enemy when he is making a mistake.
~ Napoleon Bonaparte
Pain is weakness leaving the body
"I will not let anyone walk through my mind with their dirty feet." -- Mahatma Gandhi
So I'm still trying this thing out....
Last night my daughter was singing in her bedroom and I could hear her from mine. I let her know what a beautiful voice she has but she became all shy and argued with me that she didn't and that she wasn't going to sing ever again. I explained to her that God had given her a precious gift and that she was supposed to use it because otherwise it would be like receiving something pretty and special from someone and then forgetting you had it at all. I think she understood.....now she doesn't stop singing...bless!!
